Fireproof Your Marriage

Yesterday, I watched the movie Fireproof and I love it.  It made me laugh, it made me cry.  It's a story about a couple who were married for 7 years and is facing a crisis in their relationship. The husband Caleb Holt, played by Kirk Cameron, was motivated by his father to save the marriage by following the 40 days Love Dare.

The scene in the video below is the heart-to-heart talk between Caleb and his father when he was already frustrated by the lack of response by his wife when he was into the 20+ day of the Love Dare.  What is to be discovered in this scene that I think is most important is that we cannot truly understand how to love others until we have truly learned and accepted the unconditional love of God.


There is really so much to learn from the movie that every husband and wife and couples-to-be should know.  A few of the lessons I have learned include

• Marriage is meant to be for keeps. "So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate” (Matthew 19:6).  The marriage is a covenant that both husband and wife should keep for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer till death do part.
• Fireproof your marriage. Fire will always come to test the relationship. If you want to fireproof your marriage, you need a strong foundation in your relationship. As Ecclesiastes 4:12 says "A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."  God is the third strand that would keep the relationship strong.
• Don't give up easily. If you're in the middle of a turmoil in your marriage, don't give up yet. Give it your best shot to save the marriage. It's not easy though. Caleb wanted to quit when he was just on day 4 of the Love Dare, but he struggled to keep going until the breakthrough came on day 43. He didn't stop on day 40 because he really wanted to keep on fighting for his marriage.  And he won.
• Be willing to change.  In any conflict, most often we only see the problems and faults in the other person. But we rarely look on our own self. And it is also common among married couples to think that his or her partner needs to change for a better relationship. It's really a selfish attitude. For change to make a difference, it must really begin with oneself and from within.  When Caleb accepted the genuine love of God, he was changed inside out and that love caused him to love even more even when his wife rejected his acts of love. The process may not be easy, but with God nothing is impossible.

It was really wonderful having watched the movie "Fireproof." It is one those movies that have real Christian and family values in it. I highly recommend it.